Please, Whatever You Do, Don’t Misunderstand This Post!

In these days of Gay rights and Trans-Gender equality what I am going to write in this post could be badly misunderstood; but I’m willing to take that risk because I think there is something that very much needs to be said, but which I have never heard anyone other than myself actually teach! So here goes!

In my travels over the years I have met a lot of Christian men who I really do think need to get in touch with their feminine! You see, we men suffer from a generic male problem which we all too often just pretend isn’t actually an issue. The simple fact of the matter, though, is that, by and large, men – Christian men included – are the most appalling and insensitive blockheads!

However, before I am summarily disfellowshipped by just about every male friend I have for saying this let me make it abundantly clear that I am not going to be implying anything that in any way transgresses the divinely created gender order, or blurs the distinction between them. Absolutely not! Men are men and women are women, and no-one is clearer on that than I am: but there are nevertheless some fascinating verses in the Bible that have a very clear bearing on this. The first example I will give concerns Jesus Himself, and the second Paul the apostle. We consider first the Lord Himself:

“Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were not willing.” (Matthew 23:37)

Notice how Jesus here describes His sensitivities and longings in the most blatant of female terms; that of a hen with her chicks! Not because He thinks He’s a woman, of course not, but because femininity is forever associated with the more tender emotions of human experience. He therefore uses a feminine picture in order to communicate that such was the nature of His desires regarding the rebellious Jews, and that what He was feeling towards them were emotions of tenderness, longing and maternity. Now to Paul:

“We were gentle among you, like a nurse taking care of her children.” (1 Thessalonians 2:7)

Wow! The Greek here suggests the nurture given by a nursing mother to her baby. Speaking of the time he, Silas and Timothy spent with the saints in Thessalonica, Paul says that they related to them like breast-feeding mothers. And guys, it just doesn’t get any more feminine than that. He then goes on to say, “So, being affectionately desirous of you, we were ready to share with you not only the gospel of God but also our own selves, because you had become very dear to us.” (v8)

I am not for one moment suggesting that this means that Christian men should be over-emotional, sentimental, wishy-washy or irrationally illogical thinkers. Not at all! There obviously are ‘wimpy’ men, Christians among them, who need to seriously get in touch with their masculine side and who need to stop behaving like old women; but what I am saying here is that even though men ought to be strong, definite and bold leaders of their families and situations, they should also know what it is to be gentle, tender and sensitive to the feelings and situations of those around them…their wives and children especially!

So fear not, I haven’t converted to gender-confused liberalism. No way! I remain an avowed and committed believer in patriarchy! However much evangelical feminists wish it were not true, God is Himself (not Herself) unchangingly male, and patriarchy is His clear order for creation. He is the father of spirits, not their mother. Therefore, when such a God becomes a human being, there can only be one possible outcome; that is, He becomes a man and not a woman. Evangelical feminism falls and self-destructs at this very first post: Messiah was a man, and could not, by very definition, have been a woman! As scripture says, “There is one God and one mediator between God and man, the man Christ Jesus.” (Emphasis mine.) Salvation could never have been through faith in the Lord Jessica Christ!

What I do believe though is that manhood ought to be represented and thought of in terms of a somewhat more delicate and chivalrous bygone age. I am, after all, both English and male, and it thus behoves me to ensure that, at all times, and in all places, I behave like the English gentle-man that I am! And there you have it! Embedded in the very word ‘gentleman’ itself is the heart of true manliness: gentleness, sensitivity and tenderness! I put it to you that without being in touch with this ‘feminine side’, men who are strong, capable and able to lead – as well they ought to be – will inevitably become the complete blockheads I am here warning against,  instead of the gentlemen God created them to be. Only when you combine strength, authority, leadership and boldness with gentleness, sensitivity, tenderness and a heart of compassion, do you truly have the Lord’s idea of a real man! A man such as men were created to actually be, the ultimate example being the fact that never was there such a man more-so than the Lord Jesus Christ Himself. The shortest verse in the whole Bible is, “Jesus wept.” That Jesus had no qualms or inhibition about crying in public tells us something absolutely wonderful about Him.

Guys, we need to be in touch with our feminine side! As already stated, there are men – even Christian men – who haven’t even got in touch with their masculine side yet, and who need to just man-up, but it is not they whom I am here addressing. I am addressing those of us who do know what a man is supposed to be, and who do rise to that challenge, but who are still missing the importance of this other side of the equation. It is incredible indeed that needed male feelings, sensitivities, gentlenesses and sensibilities are referenced in God’s Word in blatantly feminine terms.

I sure hope I have taken you all with me on this, and that I haven’t overly put anyone off! Or even worse, caused anyone to actually want to object! But if you do want to object then all I can suggest is that we settle it like men:

Handbags at dawn it is, then!!!

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The Ezekiel Factor

“The Spirit then lifted me up and took me away, and I went in bitterness and in the anger of my spirit, with the strong hand of the LORD on me. And I came to the exiles who lived at Tel-Abib near the Kebar River. And I sat where they sat overwhelmed among them for  seven days.” (Ezekiel 3:14-15)

The intent of the above verses follows on very much from the previous post concerning Jesus’ view of Nicodemus and the uniqueness of each individual. Two vitally important things are inter-twined in them! The first is that Ezekiel had already received the heart of the Lord concerning the situation into which he was being sent in order to speak the Word of the Lord; but the second is that he also then had to embrace, feel and share the hearts of the people in those situations before uttering a word!

The Hebrew of the text conveys the idea of the silence of deep mourning, anguish and distress. In other words, it wasn’t enough for him to feel what the Lord was feeling concerning the people he was being sent to, he had to also feel what they were feeling in the situation, thus sharing in their pain and distress, before delivering the burden of the Lord to them. Hence the need for him to sit silently with them for seven days so that he could become properly identified with them, share their hearts, and feel their pain. This is what compassion is: to enter into the distress and anguish of those you are seeking to share the Lord with. It is to feel their pain, to vibrate in sympathy with the distress they are going through, only then bringing to bear any truth or wisdom such as they need to hear. It is what Paul means in 1 Corinthians when he says that believers should “weep with those who weep.”

This is yet another facet of a theme that anyone who knows me will know that I return to again and again: the biblical relationship between grace and truth, stated elsewhere by Paul in terms of the need to “speak the truth in love.”

We should never just dole out truth and advice left, right and centre, irrespective of how true and scriptural that truth might be, or how biblical, inspired and wise the advise. No! Not in a million years! We are to rather bring the Lord’s heart to bear on the hearts of whoever His burden through us is for. This means that, like Ezekiel, we must first actually receive His heart and mind concerning whatever the burden might be, but then become one with, and feel the pain of, those for whom the burden has been given. This is what intercession is, and what compassion actually looks like. It is to become one, and to vibrate in sympathy with, the pain of those to whom we are called.

Truth is obviously always objective, but what we are highlighting here is that so often we lack this subjective emotional element of actually feeling for people, of resonating in identification with their hurts, joys and fears. It is not mere sentimentality because what we are speaking of issues from, and will always apply, the objective truth of God’s Word. No! It is rather to become more and more like the God Who feels the pain of every man, woman and child whom He has created.

At the heart of everything God is, and has done, is incarnation. In the Lord Jesus He has incarnated Himself into every aspect of human life. And this He has done because not only is He the God of Truth, He is also the God of all Grace. And what this issues in is a principle that underlines everything concerning the manner of His dealings with us, and it is simply this: God beats the problem by becoming the problem! Think about it! What was the problem? Human beings! A fallen human race! So what did God do? He became a human being called Jesus! He beats the problem by becoming the problem! But of course it’s so much more than just that because what was the underlying problem that had made men, women and children a problem in the first place? Sin! Human beings are a problem because of their problem with sin! So what did the Lord do about that?

“God made Him who knew no sin to become sin, that in Him we might become the righteousness of God.” (2 Corinthians 5:21. Emphasis mine.)

In our relationships with both unbelievers and our fellow Christians with whom we fellowship, incarnation is at the very heart of how we should live, and the kind of people we should be. Seeking to identify with those around that we might feel what they feel. That we might vibrate in sympathy with them, and sit where they sit, overwhelmed among them, in order to discern, and then meet, their needs.

“And I came to the exiles who lived at Tel-Abib near the Kebar River. And I sat where they sat overwhelmed among them for seven days.”